Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and if you are grieving the loss of a relationship, the holiday might be one that you do not plan to acknowledge because it will bring negative feelings. While some may find not acknowledging the day the most effective in helping them move forward, there are other ways to spend the holiday that could help with the coping process in the long term.
Everyone copes differently, so there are also individuals who may feel comfortable using this day to mourn if they lost their loved one unexpectedly. However, there are those that may feel that neither of these methods will help them move on personally.
It is important to remember that just as everyone copes differently, it may take you longer to heal than others so try not to judge yourself too harshly. In order to do so, you must create an environment that is therapeutic and promotes personal growth. Creating a positive environment is possible when you focus not on what you have gone through or lost, but what could lie ahead.
Think about spending time doing things you enjoy so much that your mind is focused when you are completing those activities and they make time pass by quickly. With the loss of a relationship some may feel they also lost their sense of self-worth and positive connections. While spending time on your favorite hobbies can be therapeutic, your skills and passions can also be used to improve the world around you and connect on a deeper level to other people in your life or community. Not only could this help with rebuilding a sense of self-worth but it also could help build your support system and make you an even better version of yourself.
This Valentine’s Day, celebrate the fact that love is something that can be found in many places and through many things- it can be found from within, through a conversation with a family member or friend and even from hobbies that help you de-stress after a long day.